Sorry that I’ve been MIA lately. I’ve been busy planning for my wedding which is gonna take place in a week. I got engaged a little over a year ago. Since then, I’ve been consciously or subconsciously putting off wedding planning work because I was so fixated on my trading job. Growing up, I was never the type of person who dreams about his/her wedding – I never pictured myself in a wedding dress walking down the aisle like a princess, kiss the love of my life, or wine and dine and dance with guests in a beautiful beach/garden/castle/ballroom on a perfect summer night. None of these ever occurred to me. I don’t hate it, not to be mistaken. I just don’t really think about it much. I think about it as much as I think about how many left-handed people there are in Greenland.
So when my fiancé and I got engaged, we immediately hired a wedding planner. A little background: both of us are obsessed with efficiency. We do everything we can to optimize for our careers so that we can stay ultra-focused and driven. All the other aspects of our lives? They should be as automated and mindless as possible:
We hired task rabbits for cleaning; my dinner after work alternated between chipotle and Sweetgreen and only diversified by client/broker dinners; I hate spending time folding clothes so I rely on the laundromat (less so to wash our clothes, more so that they can turn a huge bulk of entropic system into a small basket of folded squares). My fiancé is like me times 10. For him, before dating me, his one and only goal outside of work was to stay alive.
Sorry I digress. But the gist is: I hired an expensive wedding planner hoping that she can take care of everything for us, that she would give us a handful of options for flowers/silverware/music… like a multiple-choice quizlet, and we could fill out our Scantron sheet, submit, and a claw machine would grab us and drop us into a perfect wedding day that is exactly what we want. (Jk, I wasn’t this naive, but you get the idea.)
After I left my trading job,
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